Liz Rook

I am an energetic, always learning and evolving type of person whose joy comes from helping others. I love to assist in a journey and watch people achieve their dreams and goals. I truly believe there is no limit to what we can achieve once we open our minds.

3 simple steps to solve stress instantly

Be a PAL to yourself:

  • Pause and watch what you’re thinking about. When you’re feeling stressed, you’re thinking something (or lots of somethings to create it) – find the thought trampling through your brain
  • Ask yourself: Is this really true? Is it definite, is there any other way to consider this situation? This interrupts the stressful thought loop
  • Look around, find your safety (where are you, what can you see, smell, hear, and touch). Then take a few deep breaths and shake your body out

Repeat as needed.

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Dumping Syndrome… and how it helps stress

Can I tell you a secret?

I verbally vomit. Often.

I feel this need to purge my under thoughts out.

I used to do this to unsuspecting victims loved ones.
Now I mostly confine it to my thought dumps.

What are thought dumps?

Exactly what they sounds like!

I dump all the spaztastic crazy out on paper and let my adult brain (aka my personal cortex) look at it.

It is SO helpful in seeing exactly why I’m feeling stressed, upset, angry, frustrated, sad or even excited.

I find that cleaning out my brain on a regular basis is just like keeping a storage closet organized.

It’s MUCH easier to find stuff I’m looking for… and discover hidden treasures.

You can do this too. My clients learn this tool in detail to clean up every area of their life that they’re not already 100% in love with.

Can I tell you a secret?

I verbally vomit. Often.

I feel this need to purge my under thoughts out.

I used to do this to unsuspecting victims loved ones.
Now I mostly confine it to my thought dumps.

What are thought dumps?

Exactly what they sounds like!

I dump all the spaztastic crazy out on paper and let my adult brain (aka my pre-frontal cortex) look at it.

It is SO helpful in seeing exactly why I’m feeling stressed, upset, angry, frustrated, sad or even excited.

I find that cleaning out my brain on a regular basis is just like keeping a storage closet organized.

It’s MUCH easier to find stuff I’m looking for… and discover hidden treasures.

You can do this too. My clients learn this tool in detail to clean up every area of their life that they’re not already 100% in love with.

It’s so much fun. When you’re ready to feel constant and centered, always… let’s connect so you can joyfully Thrive. 🌺

It’s so much fun. When you’re ready to feel constant and centered, always… let’s connect so you can joyfully Thrive. 🌺

Who runs your life?

Who runs your life – your critic or your loving friend? Let me tell you a story about the difference in case you’re not sure.

I took a tumble this past weekend… my foot got caught on a tree root…while I was trail running downhill…at full speed. I went flying. I fell hard. I freaked out immediately.

I rolled over and off the trail. I looked for exposed bone and blood.

I watched my brain freak out (this is one of the best things I’ve learned from coaching so far… I can separate out my ego, my emotional reactions and my thoughts).

I then checked myself out, tested my sore ankle and knee and limped my way the 2 miles back to the car.

And coached the eff out of my brain the whole way.

In the past, my inner critic would have taken over and made me feel SO MUCH WORSE. She (I call her Negative Nelly) would have insulted me and demeaned me and pretty much shamed me for NOT seeing the tree root, for NOT paying full attention (I was in my flow and vibe and was loving life in the moment before I flew), for NOT knowing what MIGHT HAPPEN ahead of time and predicting the future. She also wanted me to be mad at my husband for not “rescuing” me… for no one else coming to find me… for the injustice and embarrassment of falling in the woods, for having the audacity to run joyfully without concern on a trail… for not securing my phone or sunglasses (that took a little trip too). Oh and she would have tried to convince me that the ENTIRE weekend trip was RUINED by this fall.

But in the moments after I fell, I heard her and then I refocused.
I allowed myself to feel scared, alone, sad, and in pain. I breathed through the discomfort. I slowed down, I checked in, I processed what had just happened.
I then encouraged myself to keep moving forward, one step at a time, knowing that I would make it through this, I would get back to the car, I know how to go to the urgent care if needed, and I was able to communicate with hubby and let him know I was able to walk and that I’d meet him where we had planned originally.

My ego was still smarting a few hours later, but I was also immensely PROUD of myself. I took care of myself. I, for one of the first times EVER, was able to fully feel safe and secure and loved, unconditionally.

I’m sharing this because it has been a long ass journey to get to this moment.

I have blamed other people and situations for my feelings for YEARS. (Side note: I still do, but now I am aware when it happens and redirect… practice makes better every single day).
I felt constantly like a victim and rather helpless.
I wondered why things happened TO ME.
And I raged at the injustice of the world, my jobs, my friends, even my family and the people I love most.
The person I blamed the most? Myself. This is a result of being a perfectionistic people-pleaser. It’s something I work on every single day. Now that I can see where my growth is.

Loving myself without judgment and letting go of my shame-voice and ignoring Negative Nelly are some of the biggest work I’ve done through coaching in the last 12 months. I understood the concepts I had learned, but applying them was much different and SO much more impactful.

Applying the tools and empowering myself allowed me to FULLY show up for myself in my time of need is a reason for me to celebrate.
Broken, bruised, and battered… I was able to carry on.

I want you to know you’re capable of this too.

No matter what’s happened in the past or is going on currently – you can show up for yourself in a way that builds trust, love, and empowers you to know that you can handle ANYTHING that comes your way.

When your critic is in charge, you’ll compound the icky feelings and end up in blame or shame. When your loving friend is in charge, you may not feel fantastic, but you’ll feel safe, secure, and loved.

Who runs your life – your critic or your loving friend? Let me tell you a story about the difference in case you’re not sure.

I took a tumble this past weekend… my foot got caught on a tree root…while I was trail running downhill…at full speed. I went flying. I fell hard. I freaked out immediately.

I rolled over and off the trail. I looked for exposed bone and blood.

I watched my brain freak out (this is one of the best things I’ve learned from coaching so far… I can separate out my ego, my emotional reactions and my thoughts).

I then checked myself out, tested my sore ankle and knee and limped my way the 2 miles back to the car.

And coached the eff out of my brain the whole way.

In the past, my inner critic would have taken over and made me feel SO MUCH WORSE. She (I call her Negative Nelly) would have insulted me and demeaned me and pretty much shamed me for NOT seeing the tree root, for NOT paying full attention (I was in my flow and vibe and was loving life in the moment before I flew), for NOT knowing what MIGHT HAPPEN ahead of time and predicting the future. She also wanted me to be mad at my husband for not “rescuing” me… for no one else coming to find me… for the injustice and embarrassment of falling in the woods, for having the audacity to run joyfully without concern on a trail… for not securing my phone or sunglasses (that took a little trip too). Oh and she would have tried to convince me that the ENTIRE weekend trip was RUINED by this fall.

But in the moments after I fell, I heard her and then I refocused.
I allowed myself to feel scared, alone, sad, and in pain. I breathed through the discomfort. I slowed down, I checked in, I processed what had just happened.
I then encouraged myself to keep moving forward, one step at a time, knowing that I would make it through this, I would get back to the car, I know how to go to the urgent care if needed, and I was able to communicate with hubby and let him know I was able to walk and that I’d meet him where we had planned originally.

My ego was still smarting a few hours later, but I was also immensely PROUD of myself. I took care of myself. I, for one of the first times EVER, was able to fully feel safe and secure and loved, unconditionally.

I’m sharing this because it has been a long ass journey to get to this moment.

I have blamed other people and situations for my feelings for YEARS. (Side note: I still do, but now I am aware when it happens and redirect… practice makes better every single day).
I felt constantly like a victim and rather helpless.
I wondered why things happened TO ME.
And I raged at the injustice of the world, my jobs, my friends, even my family and the people I love most.
The person I blamed the most? Myself. This is a result of being a perfectionistic people-pleaser. It’s something I work on every single day. Now that I can see where my growth is.

Loving myself without judgment and letting go of my shame-voice and ignoring Negative Nelly are some of the biggest work I’ve done through coaching in the last 12 months. I understood the concepts I had learned, but applying them was much different and SO much more impactful.

Applying the tools and empowering myself allowed me to FULLY show up for myself in my time of need is a reason for me to celebrate.
Broken, bruised, and battered… I was able to carry on.

I want you to know you’re capable of this too.

No matter what’s happened in the past or is going on currently – you can show up for yourself in a way that builds trust, love, and empowers you to know that you can handle ANYTHING that comes your way.

When your critic is in charge, you’ll compound the icky feelings and end up in blame or shame. When your loving friend is in charge, you may not feel fantastic, but you’ll feel safe, secure, and loved.

I highly encourage you to meet your loving friend and join forces to live your best life. It’s always a great day to thrive.

I highly encourage you to meet your loving friend and join forces to live your best life. It’s always a great day to thrive.

Changes at the Thrive Arena

Life… the only constant is change.

And we’ve had a lot of change in the last 2 years globally.

When I started this website and blog, I wanted to help people thrive in their life by helping them decrease their emotional eating because it is a cause near and dear to my heart.

Almost 2 years later, my vision has evolved. It’s become bigger, grander, and to that extent, I will always help my fellow emotional eaters, as, at the core of overeating is overdesire and I know exactly how to help people desire FOOD less and life MORE. (hit me up if you want all of my secrets on this). I also completely understand and relate that it is extremely difficult to change or improve health habits in the face of major stressors.

So I’m broadening my mission. There is so much stress and worry in the world. It breaks my heart to see such beautiful, loving people stumbling under the weight of their stressors on a daily basis. COVID has changed our world, permanently. My physician colleagues all feel the strain, we are still attempting to balance our feelings and worry while we continue to care for those in need.

And everyone has had abrupt and unexpected changes to their daily lives.

Anything that puts pressure on, physically or emotionally causes stress.

And this change in society will continue. Some have adapted and even thrived, while others continue to struggle. I love our coaching community – as I’ve seen so many people reach out and stand up to help. I am right there with them.

I want you to know that if you are struggling, if you’re wanting more or different, you can still thrive. You don’t have to give up or give in or let go of your dreams of a better future than what you’re living now.

Joy is the opposite of stress. And my global mission is to continue to help improve physical health while teaching people like you the tools to thrive in your emotional health NO MATTER WHAT is going on around you.

Our mental and emotional health is intricately tied to our physical health. Our bodies are a reflection of our emotional worlds as well as our ability to process our stress and expand our emotional intelligence and literacy. As a rheumatologist, I’ve counseled thousands of patients on stress reduction and now as a coach, I’m able to expand these tools to you and everyone in your world.

I believe that if we are all empowered and know how to navigate stress and worry with with love, we can share more, give more, and feel more – of all of it, without increasing our stress (in fact, as we connect and share and these gifts spill over into each of our communities, we’ll all feel less alone, less isolated and more connected, by love). And what a wonderful gift this will be.

This is how we thrive. I’m doing free Stress Solutions sessions currently. Click this link to schedule yours. Share this with your friends and family and together we can change the world.

I hope you’ll join me on this journey, I’ve got a new podcast cooking, and am tailoring my IG to you and helping you reduce stress, increase joy and thrive as an example to others of what’s possible when you go inside and bring the love out to play.

Much love, joy, and hugs to you, Liz

Fear & running

Fear is the only thing that holds us back.

I wanted to run this morning.
I’ve been wanting to run for months but the pain I have in my ankles and feet has been holding me back.
I’m afraid it will get worse.
I’m afraid I’ll injure myself so badly I’ll never be able to run again.
It’s not a totally irrational fear.

There have been 2 times previously when I injured myself and didn’t think I was ever going to be able to run.

I realized despite the fear, I have proved myself wrong in the past, I have run again.
And so I took this morning as an exercise in courage.

I jogged 2 miles without stopping and I’m dang pleased with it & myself.
In the past I would’ve just thought about it and not done it, but I’m committed to practice pushing myself past my self perceived limits physical and emotionally.

Anything I perceive as uncomfortable, I’m practicing running towards instead of away from it, both literally & figuratively.

What are you telling yourself that’s not possible for you that if you just pushed on it, just a little you might be able to surprise yourself? I invite you to lean in to the wall and see how it just might fall over.

p.s. I define courage as feeling fear and doing the dang thing anyway. Build your courage, build your dreams. You’ve got this!

Whose back?

Do you have your own back in good times AND bad (like when you totally overeat)?

Or do you turn on yourself?

Every time I overate, I used it as evidence of why I’d NEVER lose weight…why I was a failure, why I would never be loved.

No wonder I wasn’t making progress.

I’ve found this is true with so many of us.

We throw ourselves under the bus and it reveals our background loop…
that subconscious muck that plays so quietly but then the volume cranks up when our conscious brain finds evidence of it.

Why not just throw out that mix tape boo?
We’re not in the 90’s anymore.

It’s time for some new tunes.

I sing to my own tune

Let yourself seek and find evidence of how ENOUGH you are, of how lovable you ALWAYS are, of how you have your own back with love, curiosity and compassion especially when bad stuff happens.

And by bad stuff, it’s always our emotions “happening”.

You can change your background music. I can show you how to develop your brain to work for you and not against you, even when things don’t go as planned.

This is the work we do in Simply Thrive and in my 1:1 coaching practice. Reach out today to connect and get started. You deserve to have your back AND love living your life. It is possible for you, you just might need to change the station. Email info@thrivearena.com to teach your brain to work FOR you, it’s so much fun!

The wrong question

Are you wondering “why can’t I just lose this extra weight”?

You’re asking the wrong question my friend.

We all want to be “there”.

Where “there” is your dream body, health, energy level and functional fitness ability.

We think it’s better there. Rainbows and kittens and sunshine and all that.

It’s why we want to go. And most of us feel entitled to it. I know I did. So we try to figure out a path from here to there. Preferably easy, preferably with minimal directions along the way.

We think we should be able to make a decision and then achieving the goal should be easy, smooth and comfortable.

Then we butt up against our brain.
It lies.
It tricks us into complacency.
It makes us feel like we’ve failed if anything is uncomfortable or hard.
It tells us to turn back.
It convinces us that it’s “not so bad” here… which at the same time seducing us that it’s “so much better” there.

But our brain also knows that here is what we know, it’s safer, it’s familiar, it’s easier.

Even when we’re suffering.

Your brain wants you to ask “why” and “how” do YOU STAY STUCK WHERE YOU ARE RIGHT NOW.

And that’s exactly where I come in to help you retrain your brain for success & permanent change.

We identify where you’re stuck, create and execute a plan (including smashing through obstacles together… you’ve seen “Wreck-it-Ralph”? Yup that’s us), we rewrite the story and rewire your brain along the way so you can have fun, show up, and succeed instead of holding back and continuing to get lost in the “how” and “why”.

My Thrivers learn how to do this for everything in along the way, and then they can apply it to every aspect of their life forever.

Because how we do one thing?
It’s how we do everything.

You want to lose weight & love your body and enjoy your food instead of struggling? Let’s do this.

You can be empowered with your health and life. This is knowing you make a decision and commit to seeing it through.

My friend, stop asking “why” and “how” and come work with me where we’ll create the version of you who’s ready to thrive and live “there”.

Email me today at info@thrivearena.com to connect & get started.

Kicking the dog

Do you abuse your dog or cat?

We beat our bodies up regularly with no regard or appreciation for them.

We treat our pets better than we treat ourselves.

Most of us would never kick our pets or do anything to harm them.. and even if we yell at them occasionally… they keep coming back with their unconditional love.

Our bodies love us unconditionally too.

And we ignore our body and our default health and disrespect it and don’t appreciate it… until our body starts hurting or defaulting or developing dis-ease.

Then we get upset and angry with our body. Because it has betrayed us. Because it’s not working right. Because we’re focused (like we always are) on what’s going wrong in any given moment rather than appreciating exactly what’s going right.

This is why I teach all of my clients how to appreciate, love, and celebrate their bodies.
Right now, as is. Even when we first start working together & they may be far from their desired result.

Because what we focus on expands.

You want better health? Start appreciating the loyalty and love your body gives you daily and watch it grow.

Email me at info@thrivearena.com to connect and start living your best health.

You are already okay

When you work, your job can become a thing you blame, avoid and despise if it doesn’t fill your cup.

Especially with this last year of upheaval, many women have found themselves burnt out, trying desperately to keep it together and find any relief.

It’s because we’re in survival mode.

And when our emotions are intense and overpowering, our creativity and rational thinking is low.

If you’re feeling the burnout, there is a simple way to reconnect, recharge, and relax.

Reconnect to you.

The job and family can wait.

Go outside, breathe deeply, feel how ok and perfect you are RIGHT NOW.

Give your brain a loving shhhhhhhh when it tries you tell you there’s no time for this moment.

Your brain is a lying liar anyway.

Recharge by finding things you enjoy. Play, laugh, talk, sit. Be present. Put responsibility to the side and focus on the moment.

Relax by getting sleep in. Winding down, unplugging. The world will not stop without you for 7-8 hours. Reach out for help. Breathe in and out and feel how loved you really are.

You can do this my friend.

If stress is keeping you stuck in overeating, Simply Thrive is the solution you’ve been searching for. Lose weight without struggle and without fear of regaining, slipping backwards or falling off the wagon. I’ve got your back. You can do this, I can help.

Why marriage = success in weight loss

When people lose their mental weight first, the physical weight loss and permanent change becomes easy.

What’s holding you back from your dream body isn’t your lack of willpower.

It’s also not your busy life, your injured knee or your boss’s spouse’s cat’s cousin that is causing your stress which makes you eat.

It’s your brain. It’s your very human and very normal brain.

In Simply Thrive, we shine a spotlight on the heavy thoughts, ideas and beliefs that are keeping you stuck where you are right now. Then you get to decide whether to keep these ideas or trade them in for productive ones that will get you to your goal.

One thought, one step, one simple habit at a time.

By marrying habits and mindset work, we clean out the excess build up to make room for the healthier beliefs. You’re just one great decision away from your healthiest life.

You can do this.

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