Beliefs are simply thoughts that we think repetitively that become automatic.
Almost all of our beliefs as adults come from our childhood and our experiences as we grew up and became who we are today. Good, bad, or ugly, our parents and the adult figures in our lives shaped our worlds and our thoughts, beliefs and view of others.
If you’re brought up in a loving, supportive environment, you tend to be more trusting and extend love because that’s what you know and have learned.
Conversely, if you’re brought up being told that you’re no good and constantly criticized, you’ll tend to adapt that attitude toward others and yourself. It usually isn’t a conscious way of growing up.
However, then, as adults, we discover that everyone else isn’t necessarily just like us.
Other people may be more patient, more kind, more reactive, more temperamental.
It’s human to judge everything around us. It’s how we approach our lives, it helps protect us. These are the patterns we learned as we grew.
It’s human to have good days and bad days. It’s also human to go through life never questioning our beliefs, our core values and where they came from and if they’re even true.
Think about this for a minute.
What is something you believe to be true?
Then ask yourself – is it REALLY true?
DO you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that it’s true? And evaluate – how do you feel if it is true? What would you think if that idea didn’t exist? This is the essence of Byron Katie’s The Work.
Just like thoughts – beliefs are often automatic. We don’t tend to question them. We don’t think about them. We just believe them, we trust them, we only question them if they’re blocking us from something different that we want to believe.
Only then, when we’re aware of them and want to approach changing them, can we consider letting go of them.
Do you have beliefs that you’ve questioned before?
What beliefs about yourself do you have? Do they limit you? Are you curious?
Try it, let me know what happens!
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