Changing our thoughts will change our life. Super simple, super easy. It all starts with a thought. No problemo!
As we discussed last week, recognizing that our thoughts are the culprits of our emotions can be a game changer.
We previously talked about watching your thoughts, starting to become more aware of them and choosing to look at them and change them, especially in situations where you may be upset, anxious, or scared.
We did not discuss how to change them though.
Our brains want to be tricky, they want to hide and not change.
Even thoughts about changing ANYTHING can lead to resistance. Bummer, right?
Because change is something unknown.
Our brain wants to panic, it wants to protect us, it wants us to run the other way. Avoid pain, seek pleasure, good old trusty primitive brain.
But instead, we’re asking our adult brains to lean in. To assist, to guide us.
You can see where this creates some distance between our primitive brain and our evolved, adult brain. Like parents and children, the battle wages on, but inside our heads. With every chance to change. I know, I’m exhausted just writing about it.
For my lively explanation of the 2 contrasting parts of our brain, click here.
Our brains also like to be efficient. Thinking the same type of things, doing the same thing daily. Less brain power, so to speak.
This does not serve us while we’re changing but can be very powerful after we have adjusted to a new thought or thought process.
The first step of changing our thoughts (as with everything else) is awareness. You need to know what’s not working for you or serving you.
Next, you need to decide how you want to feel. What you want to do. Where and who you want to be.
Once this is established you can get to work.
We all have the thoughts we’re thinking now that are creating our current reality and then we have to find the thoughts that will create where we want to be, what we want to do, how we want to feel.
You still with me?
Next we can create bridging or ladder thoughts to get from here to there. This is where a coach like myself will be a huge benefit as we guide you from A to B faster and more easily that you can guide yourself (remember, your brain will want you to maintain status quo). You can also endeavor this on your own, but like with a ladder you climb to paint the house… having extra support is never a bad idea.
Finally, we practice our new thoughts to reinforce them, then we choose consciously to continue to practice them until we achieve the new result and then reinforce them until we accept these new thoughts and they become automatic.
Easy peasy, right?
Go get ‘em tiger. I just gave you all the steps to change your thoughts and to change your life into what you want it to be. You’re welcome.
If you are confused, feeling stuck, or otherwise don’t think you can go it alone – email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and set up a time to chat about how this WILL change your life.