When I was a kid, I used to think people grew up and became adults and all of those annoying and weird behaviors that we saw in our colleagues as children, adolescents, and teenagers would go away.
Yes, it was naive but I thought that somehow we all went through some transition (maybe a portal, not sure what my 8 year old brain was thinking exactly) and we morphed into adults. ha ha ha.
So now, I’ve grown up. And truly have witnessed a spectrum of emotional behavior in my almost 43 years on this earth.
Some adults are very, well, adult-like. They take responsibility for themselves and their thoughts, words, and actions and contribute to the world.
And, then there’s the rest of us…
Okay, maybe I’m exaggerating. Maybe not.
We all know people who are ALWAYS the victim, never take any responsibility for anything in their lives, their jobs, what they put in their mouths, how they talk or act or how they feel. Right?
The thing is, most of us will sometimes still act like a victim or like someone else is a villain. Or not take complete responsibility for our feelings and lives.
It’s hard, y’all. It’s freaking hard.
The concept of emotional adulthood is something I learned about 2 years ago. I’ve been working on it since then.
It’s simple concept and my toddler brain ALWAYS wants to throw a huge tantrum about it, lol.
Basically, it’s this: YOU are responsible for all of your thoughts, feelings, actions, and results. YOU. No one else.
Boom, mic drop.
I know, right? It kinda blew my mind too.
So if I’m responsible for all of it, I’m both the victim AND the villain? No. When we take responsibility, we can see clearly that our thoughts create ALL of our emotions. No matter what is going on in this busy world around us.
Nothing anyone else says or does affects us in any way. Until we make it mean something by thinking a thought about it.
Like I said, it sounds simple, but it’s pretty profound. And it can change your life, if you let it.
Have a great weekend my friends. I’m going to be off “adulting”.
Let’s stay in touch.