Do you ever find yourself having an adult tantrum? Ya know, like a toddler who is tired and ready for a nap? Your brain just gets stuck and wants to rage? Yeah, me too. I think it’s part of being human.
When we avoid, resist, or react to a negative or uncomfortable emotion instead of processing it… it comes back stronger, just like a toddler having a tantrum because they’re not getting what they want.
Allowing an emotion looks like reconnecting to your body and how this emotion feels as a physical sensation in our body.
Learning to allow any and all emotions helps us respond to our lives instead of reacting with our toddler brain.
Before we can automatically seek the thoughts behind the emotion, many of us (myself included) have had to slow down to learn the basics of identifying, experiencing and then allowing each emotion.
It’s easier to start with less intense emotions or the ones that come up most commonly. When you start to feel stressed, anxious, frustrated, or even happy – pause. Reconnect with your physical body… how does this emotion FEEL (what vibrations or sensations are going on)? There are no right or wrong answers to this – emotions can be felt similarly but may be different in each person.
Once you’ve identified what the emotion feels like, name it. Identify it. Say “this is what anxiety feels like”. Both of these exercises help to put us back into thinking mode and usually lessen the intensity of the emotion.
The next step is to allow it – allow yourself to fully feel the emotion and the sensation in your body. Once we allow an emotion, it usually stays for a few minutes and then fades. More intense emotions can last longer – the important thing to remember is that they are not going to physically hurt you – they’re simply sensations that you’re feeling currently.
Last, you can be curious as to what thoughts created this emotion in your body. Once you identify the thought(s), then you can decide whether you want to keep them, change them or consider letting them go completely.
This, my friends, is the skill of processing emotion, and, with practice, it becomes easier and can help you process and conquer any fluctuations that may be holding you captive.
When you’re ready to let go of your stress, worry, and frustration so you can feel better and have more time, energy and fun in your life, message me to set up your complimentary exploration call. 🤗