Tidying Up

Every time I sweep, vacuum, and mop the floors in our house, I find other tiny particles of dust, dirt and or dog hair within 5 minutes of being done cleaning.

It drives me nuts. It’s a never ending fact of life. We clean, things get dirty again. 😝

As I was cleaning yesterday, I realized the floor is just like our minds.

Once we get in the habit of being aware of our thoughts, the next step is to be curious about them and tidy up our minds so that our thoughts, beliefs and ideas are in line with our values and our goals. The mind, however, likes to be efficient, so if there’s a pattern of unhelpful thoughts (anxious, negative, doubtful) they need to be swept up, just like dirt on the floor.

This, as well, is an unending process. And it requires more frequent attention at first (like a house that’s never been cleaned), but, just like a room that’s cleaned regularly, it takes less time and effort if you keep it up regularly.

So, if you want crave less stress, more joy, a habit of focus or productivity, start cleaning up your thoughts and beliefs.

A clean mind gets you weight loss, health, organization, time management and balance.

Have a lovely Monday my friends!

Xoxo,

Liz

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Pollyanna

I got called out yesterday morning.

It stung. I was told “why don’t you practice what you preach… positivity no matter what” after I was asked how I was doing and I honestly shared that I was irritated with my homeowner’s insurance regarding a repair from storm damage (as I was just finishing sending an email).

I’m currently practicing staying open and being aware of all of my feelings. And while this stung for a minute, I learned something priceless from what was said to me, and how I interpreted it.

I realized that this person misunderstands my intention, doesn’t fully understand what I’m doing in my coaching, how I’m teaching people to thrive. It’s not about positivity.

The intention of coaching and Thrive Arena is NOT to promote “positivity no matter what”. I don’t want to be happy when someone is in pain or dying or there is injustice in the world. I don’t want to be (or pretend to be) positive about things that sucks, I want to be able to feel and allow ALL emotions and process them in a healthy way to grow and expand my capacity in life.

This is what I focus on with my clients. We do the work to allow ALL the feelings. Life is 50% positive. 50% negative. Often, the thought error (aka belief that is holding us back) IS that we should be happy all the time.

No. Just no. But I get it, because I used to believe this too. Now I don’t – and that’s just one way that coaching has opened up my life.

There is a time and a place for all feelings. Trying to force positivity and happiness in a space where it doesn’t fit is like trying to shove a square peg into a round hole. It doesn’t fit. I want to be authentic, vulnerable and allow all of my emotions. THIS is how we feel greater joy, love, and happiness. By allowing the contrasts – the anger, the hurt, the disappointment, the fear. All of the uncomfortable emotions (that we’re regularly trying to avoid or suppress) are the ones that need our attention the most.

So I stopped, explained briefly that I was being authentic and that she caught me in a moment of frustration and then we both went on with our day. I am so grateful for this conversation and the honest expression of my colleague.

When we allow ourselves room for ALL of our emotions, we can stop suppressing, stop spending time avoiding, running from, overeating, overdrinking, overshopping, overspending, and doing all the other things that we as humans do to avoid our true emotions. Processing these in a healthy way (aka not doing all of the above to avoid them or suppress them) makes us both emotionally and physically healthier.

And that, my friends, is how we thrive.

Love is the answer

Love. It is the answer to everything. Truly.

I know, it sounds hokey but it really is.

This is especially true when it comes to our mindset and our health. We are born and we are worthy and lovable. And then we are influenced by the world and outside influences… for years. As kids we’re sponges, absorbing the world and opinions and beliefs around us.

Sometimes our lovability is reinforced as we grow up and we learn healthy ways to love ourselves and others. Other times, we’re taught that nothing we do will ever be enough and we set out on a quest for perfection.

Because we’ve lost sight of love.

I believe that we somehow lose track of our love. We are always searching for it – sometimes in the wrong places (like food, careers, relationships, alcohol, drugs, etc). No thing can ever give us our own love or our worth.

You were born enough. You are 100% lovable. Always have been and always will be. You get to choose to believe this. And from this – your life can change.

No matter what you’ve been led to believe in the past or thought was true.

Finding this love and deciding to believe in it will get you where you want to be.

In health, in relationships, in work, in life.

You’re either knowing and trusting that you are worthy and lovable or you’re not. You are the one who creates ALL the love you feel or don’t feel in the world. So why would you choose not to feel love?

When you decide (and that’s truly what it is – your decision) that you are deserving of loving yourself and being loved – your whole world changes. Life becomes calmer, more joyful, happier. You can give love more freely because it’s abundant, and you trust that you will feel that love back again.

So, my friends. Whatever your question is – the answer is more love.


Try it today.

Xoxo,

Liz

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S’mores and crankiness 101

Feeling uncomfortable is… freaking uncomfortable! 😝

We went camping this weekend. It was a new adventure for us. We planned and executed this idea. My husband was ecstatic. I haven’t camped since I was a kid.

We made a list. We packed. We ended up forgetting our pillows because they weren’t by the front door. 🤷‍♀️ We laughed. It happens.

Then we started setting up camp. It was awkward. It was unfamiliar. I think we’ve all had that experience where something is brand new. And going through the process (in this case unpacking and setting camp up) was unfamiliar. And strange. And it’s easy to let the discomfort of this overwhelm you (I did).

And make you cranky. And want to give up. That’s how I felt after my 18th trip through each side of the car looking for 1 thing. Then repeating. Over and over.

This time though…I was consciously aware of the discomfort. And I breathed through it (not perfectly mind you…I felt a tantrum coming on… and luckily my chillaxed hubby talked me down). 🤪

And although I was uncomfortable, I also was excited.

I had two opposite feelings coexisting. And I was aware of both. Plus I felt anxious.

The point? Learning new things is uncomfortable. There will be awkwardness. The key to mastery and experience is allowing that obstacle of awkward discomfort and not letting it stop you.

Allow it, expect it, feel it, that’s how you know you’re doing it right and growing.

We had a fantastic time. S’mores and all.

I can’t wait for the next camping adventure.

You can do this with anything you want to try.

Be bold.

Try something new.

Move through that discomfort and see if you can watch your progress.

It’s amazing. 🤗

Xoxo,

Liz

Who’s Afraid of the Big Bad Wolf?

Change is always a little scary. So how do we change when we feel that paralyzing fear and worry and then god-forbid we start making changes and our brain kicks in… and OMG, the overwhelming anxiety and what if’s creep in…

The question is:

HOW DO ACTUALLY WE CHANGE WHEN THE THOUGHT OF IT IS SCARY?

Fear and doubt and worry hold so many people back; no doubt you’ve considered doing something* and held back out of fear.

*Examples include leaving or taking a job, going on a date, meeting a new person, trying a new sport, lifting a heavier weight, ending a toxic relationship, etc

Consider that fear is your brain’s natural response to ANYTHING new or different. Our brains are trained to seek pleasure, avoid pain and be efficient. Our brain always has our back to protect us from that evolutionary threat… the dangerous animal outside our cave. Now that we’ve evolved? It’s still working all the time, but only has time to flex when we want to do something that most likely ISN’T going to kill us (daredevils, I’m excluding you).

I know there are definitely things you wanted in the past and pushed through the discomfort of fear and the unknown to experience, like a new relationship, job, school, haircut or sport.

We all have, our else we’d never grow or change. 

Doing new things may always be slightly scary. If you are willing to accept this and still move forward, you can create whatever you desire in your life. 

THIS one skill is the key to freedom from the “what ifs”:

✅ Picture what you want to do

✅ Create a plan that makes it possible

✅ Expect and allow the discomfort and fear and anxiety about trying something new and different (thanks brain!)

✅ Execute plan then evaluate and adjust it as needed until goal accomplished

✅ Repeat as needed

We always think we need to feel comfortable and competent and motivated to take action toward a new goal but all of these emotions come from how we frame what we want – we actually create these emotions with our thoughts and beliefs about our idea. 

You can allow your fear and accept it and move through that discomfort to achieve new things. You’ve done it before – you can do it again. So get out there and do it! 

I believe in you. ❤️

Have a beautiful day my friend.

Look over your LEFT shoulder to see your future

Our human brains tend to either look back or look ahead constantly.

I know I used to be constantly hoping, wishing and planning for the future.

Are you living in your future or your past?

The only way your past affects you is how you choose to think about it right now. It’s the same with the future.

ONE small shift in perspective from future or past to present focused will make all the difference when you want to change your life.

Are you focusing on the future while living in the now?

Or are you worrying about a future that may never come, or fretting about a past that you can’t change, except in your perspective?

Learning from your past while applying that knowledge to your future helps you grow and create as you go through your days.

It’s a very cool way to live. You’re always learning and moving forward. Never being stuck, unless you’re choosing to pause while learning or going deeper into your why.

I love feeling alive at any given moment. Feeling empowered. Tingly, excited. Energetic. I highly recommend it!

Have a fantastic weekend my friends.

Xoxo,

Liz

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Even cows get curious

Your adrenal glands are on vacation?

Have you been diagnosed with or self-diagnosed with adrenal fatigue? Do you know that it’s a made-up diagnosis? That it doesn’t exist? And if you were diagnosed with it, you’re actually being treated with COMMON SENSE?
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I wish I was kidding. If your adrenal glands weren’t producing enough steroid – you’d be dead or in a coma. If you hackles are coming up – either you’re making a profit off this “diagnosis” or you’re resisting the circumstance that this is a “lifestyle” diagnosis – your LIFESTYLE is causing you stress and it’s wearing you DOWN because you’ve been IGNORING your body. This is the opposite of thriving in life. 
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If you’re feeling worn down, tired, stressed out (likely you were stressing your body and brain, right?), and just generally gross – guess what – you weren’t taking care of your body and it’s SCREAMING AT YOU TO SLOW DOWN. Overeating? Overexercising? Overworking? Overthinking?
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And how is this “adrenal fatigue” entity treated? Whole food nutrition (who would have thunk – fruits and vegetables, lean protein, whole food starches, healthy fats), sleep, REST/meditation, hydration, and vitamins to support all of the above? What? And you may be paying for some supplement that your healthcare provider sold you for cash, right? Because it’s going to “support” your adrenal glands (that were functioning just fine previously thank you very much).
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There are few things that get me this riled up. But this “diagnosis” really butters my biscuits. I see patients EVERY DAY that are worn down, tired, stressed, and feel like poop. And guess what – this stress can affect your body, it can be a contributing factor to autoimmune disease. Where your own immune system starts attacking YOU. And then they end up in my office. Sometimes with disease, sometimes (luckily) not. And let me be clear – the autoimmune diseases that I see have a multitude of causes, stress is just one of them. I would never wish any of these diseases on anyone.

When you have symptoms of fatigue and stress and you feel worn out, most likely you are not listening to what your body needs. It likely isn’t your fault either. In our fast-paced world, moving slowly, methodically and taking care of yourself can seem selfish, useless, or wasteful. If you knew that your lifestyle could shorten your life or cause you a chronic disease – would you change it now? Before it’s too late?


For your own health – I implore you… SLOW DOWN. Listen to your body. Trust it, for once. It’s trying to tell you something. Maybe you need sleep, maybe you need a vacation, maybe you need to feed it better quality foods, maybe you just need to stop. Breathe in and out. Stop running away from yourself.

Your brain is likely constantly racing, constantly searching, always on go mode. Sound familiar?

However you decide to choose to thrive and improve your life – realize that it is YOUR choice. Whatever you decide to call your stress — you have the power to improve it. This starts and ends with you. And I can tell you that I want you to take care of yourself. We all take our health for granted. Until we wake up and it’s gone.

You deserve to be healthy. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to thrive.

You deserve this

Thriving = flourishing


When you step into who you want to be – it feels amazing.

You feel more like YOU. Life and the day-to-day is so much more. More comfortable. More fun. More joyful. More empowering.


If you’re feeling good but not exactly where you want to be – email me so we can chat about what is possible for YOU.

You deserve to thrive. 🥰 You can start today.

Are you worth it, then let’s WORK IT

I want you to know, from the bottom of my heart, that YOU ARE WORTH IT.

Everything you have experienced, struggled with, succeeded at and failed at has brought you to NOW.

To who you are today. And you are beautiful.

Right now.


And all of the struggle was FOR YOU. To help you grow.

I know your journey has not been easy (mine sure wasn’t).

It has not always been fun. Your journey is unique to you.

And your success is as well.

You have always been worthy of success. Worth loving. And you still are.

No matter where you are right now, no matter what you’ve done or not done, succeeded at or failed at.

You’ve been getting ready for this moment. Right now.


The moment where you change your life. For good.

You are worthy of investment, of success, of happiness.

I help people like you get results. Are you ready?

We’re talking about how to overcome overeating, let go of struggling with food issues and how to love our bodies and our lives FOREVER in my Facebook group. It’s the ultimate way to thrive.

We’d love you to join us.

Round and Round we go… with our food on vacation

Happy May Day!

What do you change about your eating when you’re on vacation or traveling? Do you ever stop to ask WHY you change stuff?

It’s normal to adjust slightly as you usually don’t have access to all the same foods you have at home, or you may be on a slightly different eating schedule.

This doesn’t mean that you use it as an excuse to say “f it” and go balls out into the foods you’re avoiding or restricting that you didn’t even realize you weren’t allowing yourself. When you’re not restricting or avoiding foods regularly – you don’t have to “be naughty” and eat them when you’re “free” from your normal routine.

Still following me? Okay, so, this goes back to… yup, your thinking.

What do you think when you think about traveling for work or going on vacation? Freedom, escaping…insert your own thoughts here.

I used to plan what I was GOING TO EAT (all the things basically) when I went on vacation.

I used to make excuses why I “had” to eat the muffins at conferences.

Then I would lament that I had gained a bunch of weight!

Round and round I went. My husband used to just shake his head.

Does this sound familiar?

We stand in our own way – we tell ourselves that because of this travel, this work trip, this vacation, this death in the family, all of these circumstances are causing our overeating. Contributing to our inability to lose weight.

Wrong.

It begins and ends WITH YOU.

You always have the choice to eat for your goals.

Whether you’re traveling, whether you’re on vacation, whether you have an off-day, are stuck at home (or at work) during a pandemic, whether you travel for work regularly.

It all comes back to you (wherever you go, there you are, right?).

This is something we love to avoid thinking about (cuz growth ain’t always easy).

If this resonates with you – I want to invite you to schedule a call with me to discuss your goals and where you want to be in your life and how you can make that happen.

You can have the life you want – without restricting, without avoiding all of your favorite foods, without that blame-shame-guilt cycle so many of us know intimately.

You can do this. You deserve to thrive.

Xoxo,

Liz

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