What a weird topic, right? Why would anyone want to read about feeling uncomfortable? Well, we all experience it. It’s part of our experience as humans. Some of us use methods to distract, stop, or avoid this feeling.
Be comfortable with being uncomfortable. Sounds like an oxymoron, right?
Learning to allow feelings can be super uncomfortable.
It’s something a lot of people resist as mentioned above.
Avoidant behaviors include overworking, overeating, overdrinking, distracting, sleeping, bingeing on TV or Netflix… all to avoid a harmless feeling that your brain is avoiding feeling, not because it’s going to kill you or permanently harm you but because it feels UNCOMFORTABLE.
If you can learn to be okay with being uncomfortable – you can transform your life. This, my friends, is the KEY to change.
Think about it – if you’re willing to feel stressed, sad, bored, angry, frustrated, tired or anxious without distracting yourself with food, alcohol, media or work – wouldn’t your life be freed up greatly?
What if you chose to stop distracting yourself and committed to feeling uncomfortable. For a day, for a month, for a year. No avoiding, no distracting, just allowing whatever comes up to be there.
Allowing the emotion (whatever it is), recognizing that it’s not going to be the most fun you’ve had all year but still being okay allowing it into your noggin and sitting with it.
One way to do this is when an uncomfortable feeling appears, stop and be aware of it first. Then describe it to yourself and let yourself fully feel it. Does it make you fidget? Does it make your heart race, your blood pressure rise? Does it feel like a knot in your stomach or solar plexus? Do you get short of breath?
When you embrace the discomfort – does it stay? Or does it pass through you, just like your positive emotions do?
It’s so much easier to do this knowing that you will be okay.
It takes practice but I know that you can do it.
And, from experience, I know that it’s so much easier to navigate and practice this with a friend or a coach who can guide you and show you where you may still be trying to hide or avoid these feelings so that you can truly change and transform.
Most of us have discomfort on a regular basis – I now use my discomfort as a gauge to stop, look inside and see what thoughts are causing me to feel uncomfortable, instead of reacting or reaching for some food to distract me.
If I can do it, you can too!
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