Change is always a little scary. So how do we change when we feel that paralyzing fear and worry and then god-forbid we start making changes and our brain kicks in… and OMG, the overwhelming anxiety and what if’s creep in…
The question is:
HOW DO ACTUALLY WE CHANGE WHEN THE THOUGHT OF IT IS SCARY?
Fear and doubt and worry hold so many people back; no doubt you’ve considered doing something* and held back out of fear.
*Examples include leaving or taking a job, going on a date, meeting a new person, trying a new sport, lifting a heavier weight, ending a toxic relationship, etc
Consider that fear is your brain’s natural response to ANYTHING new or different. Our brains are trained to seek pleasure, avoid pain and be efficient. Our brain always has our back to protect us from that evolutionary threat… the dangerous animal outside our cave. Now that we’ve evolved? It’s still working all the time, but only has time to flex when we want to do something that most likely ISN’T going to kill us (daredevils, I’m excluding you).
I know there are definitely things you wanted in the past and pushed through the discomfort of fear and the unknown to experience, like a new relationship, job, school, haircut or sport.
We all have, our else we’d never grow or change.
Doing new things may always be slightly scary. If you are willing to accept this and still move forward, you can create whatever you desire in your life.
THIS one skill is the key to freedom from the “what ifs”:
✅ Picture what you want to do
✅ Create a plan that makes it possible
✅ Expect and allow the discomfort and fear and anxiety about trying something new and different (thanks brain!)
✅ Execute plan then evaluate and adjust it as needed until goal accomplished
✅ Repeat as needed
We always think we need to feel comfortable and competent and motivated to take action toward a new goal but all of these emotions come from how we frame what we want – we actually create these emotions with our thoughts and beliefs about our idea.
You can allow your fear and accept it and move through that discomfort to achieve new things. You’ve done it before – you can do it again. So get out there and do it!
I believe in you. ❤️
Have a beautiful day my friend.